I try to keep my blog content light and happy, full of fashion nuggets, food, and good times. But I also believe in being honest with my readers, and occasionally sharing some of the less pleasant times in my life.
A close friendship of mine ended recently. I am still confused on exactly how or why it ended, and I guess I may never really know. An event took place a few months back that hurt my feelings deeply. I tried to ignore how I felt, and let it go, but I could not. I expressed (nicely) my hurt feelings to my friend. She didn't like what I had to say, and I suppose that was the end of our friendship.
From what I've gathered, this friend has moved on nicely, has a bunch of new friends, and is doing just fine. Honestly, I can't remember the last time I felt this disposable. She was one of the first people I knew when we first moved here, and I was very close to her and her family. It really broke my heart.
I've lived in Tennessee for about 2 years now, and have made some great friends as well. But it is always traumatic when a close friendship ends, especially among women. It is something I have not experienced since I was 16 years old, as I value my girlfriends so very much.
Well, there it is. Honestly, I think I posted this for myself more than for anyone else. I am letting this friendship go with love and well wishes. It is time to remember the good times, and move on towards the future. I think the below quote sums it all up.
“Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.” - Dr. Seuss
Thanks for reading,
Adrienne
I'm so sorry to hear that you've been having a tough time. There are those out there who may disagree, but I think that "friend breakups" are just as painful as their romantic counterparts. It's hard to let go of someone who has meant so much to you, to accept that maybe you and this person you were once so close to have simply grown apart.
ReplyDeleteSomeone once told me that sometimes certain people have to leave your life in order to make room for new ones. It's a painful process, to be sure, but one that leaves you with the promise of a wonderful new friendship on the horizon. In my experience, I've found it to be sound advice.
You're handling the situation with such grace. I hope that things turn around for you soon!
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Thank you Kelsey :)
DeleteSo sorry about that. I don't remember when my friendship ended with someone and I felt it. usually it comes in blast - 'we are not friends anymore'. I think writing such posts is very helpful for anyone.
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Thanks Lyosha!
DeleteI'm so sorry Adrienne. I know exactly how you feel. For some reason I fail at all "girl" friends. It hurts so bad to be rejected and not know why. It especially hurts when you think you fit in with the them only to realize you didn't and never be invited again. The days move on and so do the hurt feelings.
ReplyDeleteThank you Kelly :)
DeleteI'm sorry to hear this - the loss of a friendship can be really traumatic (the feeling of being disposable is what got me the most when one of my close friendships ended several years ago)....but that quote really does say it all.
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I'm so sorry to hear about this, Adrienne. Honestly, I feel that if she wasn't able to listen to you, as a good friend would, and honor & respect your feelings, she wasn't that great of a friend to you to begin with. You are definitely not disposable, though losing a friend definitely feels that way, especially when it's due to an unresolved issue. I hope you feel better soon! I'm sending love your way!
ReplyDeleteAdrienne, I guess that's just the way the cinnamon rolls, huh? I think I'm the type of person who would just up and go without explaining myself even to a "good friend." I know it's horrible, but I'm just very non-confrontational, and the couple times I've actually done that were because my "friend" just changed on me and wouldn't open up or listen to me anymore. Still, ending friendships hurt a lot. :(
ReplyDelete♥ laura
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